5 (ish) Impressive Things About Newborns That No One Talks About!

Friday, 31 March 2017

1. They have vampire-like skin:

If they have some spots or get some scratches on their skin -  which is common because of their little but super sharp nails - they heal incredibly quickly, sometimes the signs disappear in few hours! It's like their skin is magical! So don't be upset if their tiny sweet face gets a red line across a check, it will disappear before you expect it!

2. Their own particular needs can be very different from baby to baby:

Of course all newborns need to be fed and to sleep and to be cleaned, but how and when can really differ in every baby. The trick is finding what works for your newborn!! Keep observing and maybe write down some habits so you can look back and see if you can find a pattern regarding their sleep. For example my baby wouldn't go to sleep by himself, he needed to be PUT to sleep and I found it out quite late just because I was not paying attention to the signs - see next point below!

3. They do not interact but they give signs:

At the beginning it can be really hard because your newborn does not interact, does not even smile, however they do give signs, so what you need to do is just spend time looking at them, observing, studying them really! By studying your baby you will get to know his/her 'language' and everything will get easier - hahah you wish! Nothing will ever get easy but for sure less difficult and more like 'ok I kind of know what to do now'!

4. They have preferences in terms of baby wearing:

Baby wearing is great but really needs practice, it doesn't always work the first time and your baby will probably have different reactions with different carriers so try different options and see what your baby likes. My baby hated it when I tired to use a sling or a mei tai, and I was really sad thinking it wasn't for us. However later on I found the right carrier for him and he loved it! (if you want to more about carriers check the 'Things We Love' page) I wish I knew it before that there are lots of different types and my baby was just waiting for the right one!

5. They seem not to give anything back but they do:

Days with newborns can be long and boring and lonely - but if you think about it they actually give you great little gifts every day, they make you appreciate how peaceful and relaxing is to have a hot shower when someone is taking care of them, the warmth of having a tea when they are sleeping, the importance of a chat with a friend when you finally manage to have some time to talk with them. In short, they make you aware of how lucky you are and how much value some little daily things have, they make you discover the real pleasures of life and make you happy, not only exhausted!

+1 They poo when you are finally ready to go out and at the door!

Yes, it took you ages to get him/her ready and let's not talk about you - you are barely presentable but finally at the door and about to go out but.. taadaaa! here comes the smell and the noise!! Again you need to change another nappy (if you are lucky and don't need need to change everything from vest to socks) But don't worry, don't get upset, it's just a newborn rule: "Finally I am ready and you are too, it s the perfect time for my hundredth poo!"


One year of Me, One year of You

Wednesday, 29 March 2017

One year of Me, one year of You

"Why are you crying?" I didn't have a clue

Milk, milk, milk is all you eat, I am always leaking it!

'Cuddles, now!' you want them all, and my food is getting cold

Pee and poo all day you do, I do nothing but changing you!

Now you're sitting on your own, crawling, moving fast alone

I am watching everywhere "Danger, Danger! Far from there!"

I can't let you out of sight - but please - can you let me sleep at night?

Every day you give me smiles and I feel Queen of the sky

You are growing up super-fast, now we' re having such a blast

One year of Me, one year of You

The love of my life you are, the most incredible journey by far!

Happy Mother's Day

Sunday, 26 March 2017

To all mums –

First time mums, experienced mums, ninja mums, mums-to-be, surrogate mums, adoptive mums, aunts, godmothers, grandmothers, breast feeding mums, bottle feeding mums, sleep deprived mums, barely-holding-shit-together mums, yet-to-be mums, daddy mummies . . . 

Take time today to acknowledge the job that you are doing. It can feel like such a thankless role at times, especially when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed and doing your best to keep your head above water every day.

You are doing a terrific job. Keep going.

Take time today to enjoy a hot cup of tea (without reheating it). So much of what we do now involves putting others before ourselves. We do it subconsciously and gladly but every now and then we must take 5 minutes for ourselves, if only to stay a little bit sane!

You are doing a terrific job. Keep going.

Take time today to breathe. You probably spend most of your day rushing around or trying to keep to the all important routine. But don’t forget to pause and breathe.

You are doing a terrific job. Keep going.

Take time today to say yes to some help. Under the guise of stress and anxiety we can try to do everything ourselves. It might not be done exactly how we’d like it, but it’s done and that’s really all that matters. Say ‘yes’ to offered help today, or ask for it if you need it.

You are doing a terrific job. Keep going.

Take time today to lavish love, respect and gratitude to the strong women in your life. Since becoming mums ourselves we have a new found admiration for our mums and while it feels like we are in the amateur club still learning, we are so blessed to have fantastic mums to teach us. With such roles models we hope to one day be like them.

You are doing a terrific job. Keep going.

Most of all, take some time today to remember who you are. Being a mum is a huge part of your life but there is also YOU in there too. Take some time today to remember that. Put on your favourite song, read your favourite (non-baby related) book, watch a movie, paint your nails . . . what ever it is that reminds you of who YOU are.

You are doing a terrific job. Keep going.

We want to wish every single one of you a wonderful Mother's Day. You really are a terrific mum.

Ciao and Welcome!

Thursday, 23 March 2017

A few months ago over cup of tea, we were sharing in our pain of another exhausting night with our darling boys Luca and Diego, and we began talking about our mothering experiences (again) and how much our lives have changed in such a relatively short space of time. 

During the conversation it was apparent that we were craving an outlet where we could share what we had learnt during our first year as mums, the challenges of raising a family away from our families in Italy and Ireland, and the rollercoaster ride of returning to our careers after maternity leave. 

We also felt a deep desire to connect with women (like you!) who were just like us - ambitious, independent, sociable, and FUN! 

We also wanted to create a space away from our day to day jobs and mum life. We wanted to create a space where we could connect, share, and learn . . . and maybe have a moan and groan from time to time.

And Bella Mamma was born!

Our Manifesto 
We hope this blog will be a tonic for the tired, caffeine fuelled mums (with kids who don’t sleep), and those needing to feel that they belong to a tribe of women who share their beliefs that women can be nurturing feminine goddesses and kick ass in the boardroom!

  • We believe that women can have it all! (but we must define what having it all means to each of us personally, and no one else)

  • We believe motherhood is journey with no map, but by using our internal GPS and intuition, we can make the best choices for our children and ourselves

  • We believe that juggling motherhood and careers is hard, and there is no right solution to navigating both, but we believe with the right support every woman can have the life and career that she craves for herself and her family

  • We believe that by cheer leading and rooting for women in all areas of life we graciously give each other permission to be magnificent. And we believe all women are magnificent; no qualms about it

  • We believe in a tribe of women who do not judge, condemn or guilt-trip. We are all here to learn and to be become the best version of ourselves; as wives, mothers, partners, daughters, sisters, friends and career women
  • We believe that children who sleep more than 10 hours are at night are a myth!!!

We can't wait to dive into our blogging journey with you, and to share our experiences and ideas. We would love to hear from you in your comments.

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